Have you ever been in a relationship with someone after you felt like you didn’t like them anymore? Or worked with someone you just couldn’t communicate with? How did that work out for you?
You try to get along but every time you have to face the person, you end up half-smiling through gritted teeth and holding your breath.
The story runs through your head like a freight train. That sorry … worthless … doesn’t appreciate anything … doesn’t care … doesn’t understand… I wish he would just go away! I wish I could live without her!
Well, as crazy as it may sound, the same relationships exist within your own body. Between you and yourself!
YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH YOU
Have you ever found yourself saying or thinking like this? “I hate my body.” “I want to get rid of my belly.” “I wish this pain would just go away!” “I’m going to do battle with this disease!”
That’s just like wanting to “off” the person you live with or the person in the office so you don’t have to feel the pain or discomfort you feel they are causing you.
Getting rid of your opponents does not resolve your pain. Fighting, foul play and murder certainly don’t make your life easier, especially when you’re talking about your relationship with yourself.
To quote Confucius, or later Buckaroo Banzai, “No matter where you go, there you are.” You have to live with you, so why not develop a relationship with yourself that will foster a harmonious healthful life. No matter where you are, you CAN learn to love yourself!
LEARNING TO LOVE YOURSELF
So how do you develop a relationship with yourself? If you want to clear the grievances, seek first to understand… First, you need to face yourself, to connect with yourself and to listen to your own subtle messages.
Listen with an intention to find compassion. Compassion leads to understanding. Understanding leads to acceptance. Acceptance leads to love.
IF YOU ARE YOU, WHO ARE THE YOU’s YOU ARE TALKING TO?
You are a multi-faceted being – like a diamond and even more. You have a conscious mind that holds memories, stories, beliefs, thoughts and emotions. You have a subconscious that holds its own version of those things. They often disagree.
Beneath that you have the wisdom of your body – the wisdom that knows what you need to sustain yourself, when you need it and how you need it.
For instance, your conscious mind might say you’re going to eat a healthy salad when you go out for dinner. Then your subconscious mind ends up taking seconds on the bread and butter, and finishes the meal with dessert. Then your body’s wisdom says “I can’t use all this right now, so I’m going to store some of these calories in the fat cells for later use.”
The wisdom of the body is innate wisdom – the wisdom you are born with. This wisdom is universal – a part of Universal Law or the Laws of Nature. Yes, we humans are a part of Nature.
Within the Universal Laws of Nature is the innate wisdom of your soul and spirit. This is the deeper knowing of the needs of the heart, such as Love, Peace and Freedom.
Learning to listen to your body will help you develop a relationship and build partnership with your own inner wisdom – your body’s innate intelligence and your soul’s deeper truths.
NO NEED TO FEAR – IT’S ONLY LOVE
Facing yourself and listening are not to be feared. They help you understand your needs, honor your truths and live from connection – a state of being centered and grounded and aware of your connection to your body and to your Divine Source.
Your deepest truths know divine love and are always seeking to reconnect to this knowing. Follow the path within to fall in love with your true self. You CAN love yourself!
To quote Oscar Wilde, “To love oneself is the beginning of a life-long romance.”
Be Yours, and have a Happy Valentine’s Day!
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